Welcome to my latest video blog. It’s something I’ve been meaning to share with you for sometime now. It’s taken me awhile because I’ve been dealing with a little something I call the ‘fear freeze response’.
Today I finally plucked up the courage to share with you a little more about me, what I do, what my role is, and essentially what my ethos is, about life, health, healing and self-fulfilment. It’s just a little taste test. A small bite size chunk about my new and emerging role as a holistic Lifestyle Coach, and my ethos for living a healthy, wholesome, joyful life. Before you watch the video, I had a little something I wanted to share with you first.
My little tango dance with this thing called fear
Each month I am evolving, growing and learning. I’m discovering new things everyday and weaving this into the tapestry of my own life, my personal philosophies and my role as a multidimensional health and wellbeing practitioner. It’s hard to describe what I do in just one sentence. And this is why posting this video blog was a tricky one for me. It took a whole lot of courage, and a very fierce and intimate dance with the inner voice of doubt and fear to finally press ‘publish’.
I always find it tricky (and extremely nerve racking) to talk in front of people, to be on screen, or (god forbid) talk about myself or what I do in front of people. I’m an inherently shy person, growing up with a lot of fears and phobias as a child, and struggling with a deep profound feeling of inner terror about being seen, being judged and being in the spotlight. But something deep inside me always tugs on my heart strings and taps me fiercely on my shoulder and says, ‘suck it up’, ‘follow your heart’s desires’, and ‘do it anyway’. It’s always been this way for me, for as long as I can remember. But, I’m getting bored. I’m tiring of the wrestle, tiring of the tug of war with my fear stories, and sick of the constant victim dance I have with this thing called fear. I’m ready to make friends and put this boring old scratched record to bed.
Each time I set up my camera, set up my environment, and sit down to share my message with the world, I have a little freak out moment. A moment where my mind takes over and I think…what the f*ck am I doing? Who is going to watch this? What the hell am I going to say? and my favourite…Who really cares anyway?
And the questions continue…What if I completely stuff it up? What if its not perfect (it’s never perfect, so I don’t even know why this question even comes up…but I still ask it). Boring, boring, boring.
It’s the same old scratched record.
My mind says a resounding ‘nooooo’ and tries to bring everything to a grinding halt but my heart and soul scream “Yesssss, share your inner soul’s knowing, push away those fears, wrestle that inner panic to the ground, hide your anxieties, live your soul’s calling to make a difference, share your learnings and JUST FREAKIN DO IT!” I take a deep breath in, swear under my breath and I turn the record button to on mode. As soon as I begin, I start to relax, I find my groove and I talk. It flows, not perfectly, but it flows.
I struggle with exposure and recoil about being in the spotlight
Being on camera is not easy for me. I cringe every time. I struggle with exposure and recoil about being in the spotlight. Even in the safety of my own lounge room with not another soul in sight, I feel sick to my core every time I get in front of the camera to share a blog. So, why do I do it? Why do I put myself through this torture and fear and squeamish uncomfortableness? Because, I care. Because I have soul that wants to share, wants to serve, wants to make a difference, wants to dance to its own tune and wants to give more to the world. I have a message that resides deep from within, and it’s just hankering to come out. My mind and body aren’t quite as cooperative to the cause, but I’m working on this.
Lately I’ve been reading a lot about courage. Courage to live your dreams, courage to follow your heart, courage to be the person you want to be, courage to step out and step up to your creative desires and heartfelt aspirations. Books have been showing up for me…falling off shelves, handed to me by random people, and making themselves known in all sorts of uncanny ways. Maybe the Universe is trying to tell me something…
For me, I use to think that courage was about hiding your fears, putting on a brave face and surging ahead against the waves of terror and messy confusion of panic. I use to think courage was about pushing away the fearful thoughts and anxieties, wrestling them to the ground until they gave up, and detesting them like they were your own worst enemy.
I use to think fear was something to be ashamed of, something to hide, something to cover up like an erupting pimple on the end of your nose. But, this, apparently, is not the case. This, apparently, is a sure fire recipe for disaster, for burn out, for self-implosion, for self-aversion and for an exhausting and extremely bumpy ride to living a tiring miserable life and self-sabotaging your dreams. It’s time to change these old subconscious records and find a different way to live out our soul’s desires.
I am learning a new relationship with fear.
Fear, my friends, is something to cherish and to LOVE like your new best friend. To take along this wild ride with you, to embrace, to hold dear, and to thank and kiss on the forehead like it was your guardian angel or your fairy god mother who just showed up. I know. It’s sound counter intuitive, but its the Truth.
Fear is your constant companion, your inbuilt messenger system, like a friendly air hostess ‘safety talk’ playing in the background of your mind. It’s your warning light, it keeps you safe, out of harms way, and it may even save your life one day. It’s time to honour this gift, this messenger angel in your life. There is no need to wrestle with it, to hide it, to be ashamed of it or to resist it anymore. What we resist, only persists, and grows stronger. Let fear be there, and let fear ‘just be’.
Fear is your new best friend on this wild ride called LIFE. It’s time to embrace your right-hand angel, and honour its sacred gift. The only rules are, it’s not allowed to sit in the driver’s seat, it’s not allowed to drive the bus. It’s not even allowed to hold the map or toggle with the radio station dials.
Fear may give you some gentle nudges, and guiding messages to do something or to not to do something, but YOU have the choice of whether to listen to it or not, or turn the volume down.
Number one rule with fear is, that YOU are always the driver of the vehicle, and YOU have control of the switches and dials, and the volume button. Sometimes we might just need to kindly thank it and say, “you know what, thank you, but I’ve got this”.
Fear is merely a beautiful passenger, coming along for the ride, JUST IN CASE you need a helping hand to keep you out of harm’s way. But, it’s not the boss. You are.
This, I am still learning. I’m guessing this might take a little more practise to master.
Wishing you blessings and a beautiful reshuffling of your relationship with fear. Embrace your fear angels, listen to their messages, but don’t let them sit in the driver’s seat. This is only reserved for you.
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